LC wrote:
I scribbled:
re LC and her piercer
> > Then why did you let the piercer do what *he* wanted?
>
> In short, confidence in his abilities.
Cool. Very good. And I adore your dual condensed/book-length reply
scenario action. I love options. Sweet. :o)
> In long, before I decided to do it I scouted around online
> and found a piercer who belonged to an organization which
> educates and regulates the profession where I live. I went
> to this organization's online site and read their
> guidelines, what my piercer was required to know and do to
> be a member, what seminars and training he's received, etc.
> This gave me confidence in his abilities.
>
> When I arrived at the studio I spoke to him at length about
> what we were about to do. I liked his manner and attitude
> and he treated me with respect.
>
> The part I got stuck on, I see in hindsight, was not this
> man's ability or opinion, but my inexperience. I came home,
> let it sit for a day, started happily looking online again
> at the pics and reading up on everything I could find when I
> noticed "hey, my piercing location looks a tad different
> from the majority of what I'm seeing here", and I freaked a
> little and needed to be reassured everything was okay. I
> don't have anyone in real life to compare to or ask.
Second-guessing is human nature, I suspect. ESPECIALLY if, like you
offer, there's no basis for comparison.
> >> My problem is with myself.
> >
> > With good reason. :o(
>
> With good reason? Could you explain that a bit?
Yes, of course. No offense was meant. Initially the whole "I told him I
thought it looked too close to the face and I'd feel more comfortable
putting it a couple more millimeters to the front. He said he didn't
think it was too close and it should stay where it was. In the end I
let him do what he wanted." section of your post made me uncomfortable,
but having read your follow-up I have new perspective on what actually
took place versus what I *imagined* took place.
"It might be helpful at this time to point out we were speaking to each
other in two languages. Both of us were doing our best. His not
explaining didn't make him
negligent, it was the language barrier. What he made understood to me
was that he was certain in his own opinion the piercing would look best
placed where it was. I trusted he wouldn't ruin his own reputation by
giving me a bad experience." sounds a LOT better than "In the end I let
him do what he wanted."
The latter had my *no means no* and If You're Uncomfortable With A
Mod/Piercer/Artist Then Leave klaxons going off. THAT's what I meant by
"With good reason." I thought something like, "Good grief, she was
unsure of the position, but let the piercer do what he wanted in spite
of her protests???"
My reaction - obviously - was exaggerated, apparently, but I saw it
almost as if you'd asked for horizontal nipple piercings and the
piercer said that vertical would be better. (Don't worry for me,
however, I really *can* tell the difference between a nose and a
nipple. ;o))
What truly matters is that you have new perspective on your piercing
and are at peace with your placement (I noticed that your Blogger page
is no longe there). Again, I'll echo the other RABbits' comments that
it looks great. Looking forward to any follow-ups. Welcome to
rec.arts.bodyart, LC.
--
Curt
http://curtjames.com/